Dear Pervaiz,

 Assalamo alaikum W.W.B.Hu,

It was lovely to have met you in London after so many years. I am fairly '' new to your discussion group '' so please allow me more time to '' settle in ''.What I have read so far, is your debate about the friendship between Asian men & women.1st of all I still don't understand what you are trying to achieve by a pointless & silly debate. I have read most of the stuff that your '' intellectual '' friends have written about this '' sexy topic( I'm sorry for the expression but that is sadly true). The most impressive view & also carrying the most weight is that of Asma Eitezaz Sahiba.

The fact of the matter is that there can be no friendship between a man & a women without the romance at some point. Even at the very beginning of the friendship our women folk are lot better at judging the '' true intentions of the predator (the man) '',so if she still carries on with the relationship then she knows that it is perfectly safe to go ahead, but knows perfectly well which way the relationship or should i say '' friendship ''is  heading. So in my opinion it will only lead to one point....romance...no matter where you are ...no matter which culture you belong to....& no matter what co lour, creed or religion you have.....best of luck for now....from London. please print my letter with all the others so that it could benefit others. 

I can understand that why women here in the West pay their own bills while dining out with friends. This is not only to stop sending any '' wrong signals '' to the male folks, but is a part of the western culture where everyone thinks that one should be responsible to pay for his enjoyment & be not a burden to anyone in anyway whatsoever. It all comes from the fact that we all need our own space in the sense that unless invited DO NOT EXPECT OTHERS TO PAY FOR YOUR FUN,& I FIND THIS RULE WONDERFUL. 

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