YOUSAF'S* MOTHER OF OUR TIME

 

*       Yousaf was a famous figure in Middle Eastern religious mythology known to Christians as Joseph, through the Bible story of Joseph and the Coat of Many Colours.  His brothers, jealous of Yousaf, threw him into a well to die. His grief-stricken father, the prophet Jacob, wept so much that he went blind. Meanwhile, Yousaf was rescued by a passing caravan and taken to Egypt. Yousaf was so charming and handsome that the mayor's wife Zulaikha fell in love with him and tried to seduce him. Yousaf was accused of having an affair with her and was sent to prison. In the prison he became popular for his ability to interpret his fellow prisoners' dreams. Eventually the King sent for Yousaf to interpret his dreams and offered him a high position in his court.

 

She would sit in the sun on the roof of her house, and daydream the whole day long. Her dreams were like buds which had withered before they had the chance to bloom. The extensive daydreaming had weakened her eyesight, and she feared that she, like Jacob, would lose her eyesight one day, waiting for her son to return; if her son did one day return to her, then she would only be able to recognize him with her touch, and not her eyes.

         Along with the fading of her sight, she was also losing her physical strength; the silver in her hair and the aching in her joints only succeeded in gaining momentum. Her diet, like her dreams, was becoming flavourless and insipid:  she dare not enjoy the taste of salt for fear of her blood pressure rising, and she was forbidden to savour the sweetness of desserts due to her diabetes.

         When she dared to share her fears with her husband, he would resort to giving advice instead of listening; he counselled her to assist him with spreading the news of Allah and advised her to pay homage to Him. He responded, "Children are entrusted to us by Allah. He gives when He pleases, and He takes away when He so wishes. We must not put so much hope and expectation into our children."

         She had stopped meeting with her friends and relatives. No longer did she attend the celebrations held for birthdays and marriages, or the ceremonies for births and deaths. She passed her days feeling alone and abandoned, silently shedding her tears. The wounds she suffered from the last gathering had not yet healed completely. She had heard so many unkind words passed that evening:

         - Look at her, she has grown old before her time!

         - Just how many women are there in the Third World who lose their vivacity at such an early age!

         - Her physical ailments have turned her head completely

           grey!

         - She and her husband share the same house, and yet it is as

           if they live in two separate worlds!

         - The loss of her son has devoured her!

         She remembered leaving the party early, feeling as if she must, and all the way home, she dried her tears with her stole. "If my son were here beside me now, he would surely put balm on my painful wounds", she thought to herself. Then she wondered a moment and said, "Even when he was here, he never had the time. He never took the time away from his poetry and short stories to listen to the call of my heart. He preferred his friends to his own family. I remember that in his absence one of his poet friends had come to visit."

         He asked, "Aunty, how are you feeling? Is there anything I can do for you while I am here?"

         "My dear boy, I see you more than I see my own son. How lucky your mother is to have a son like you! Why does my son not live with his family the way that you do with yours?"

         "Aunty, I am an ordinary poet, and I am to look after my family. Your son is an extraordinary man. He has made all mankind his family. You should speak in praise of your son in the same way that his friends are proud of him!"

         "Child, my son and I do not know how to talk to each other any more. Before he was even able to speak as a child, it was I that knew all that he wanted to say, but now it is so different. We are worlds apart. Ever since he has started to compose poetry, wide creeks have come between us."

         "Aunty, my mother and every other mother of a poet will say the same thing."

         "But, my son, surely I shall perish in his absence!"

         For a moment she stood there silently and thought of her son. She then remembered his poem He Would Never Return and a crushing wave of pain rose in her heart.

         Each Thursday she went to the tomb of Data Sahib* and gave alms, and once a year she would offer a black lamb as pilgrimage so that her son, the poet, her Yousaf, would be protected against the evil eye.

         "Why don't you just get him married off?" so many of her friends would ask.

         "He does not wish to get married," she would reply, briefly, and then change the subject.

         He was a handsome man. Even since his youth he has been chased by more wayward ladies, the Zulaikhas from his town. So many mothers have wished to have him as their son-in-law; but, those who knew him well would say that he did not believe in traditional relationships, and he wanted no part in marriage.

         Both his love affairs and his poetry gained fame since his College days. In his first published poem Dedication To An Unacquainted Sweetheart, he smashed the idols of patriotism, religion, colour and creed. His story A Kiss had created a scandal in the whole university. He tried to pave a new path for male and female relationships through his creative works. He had grown tired of the shadows, of the ghosts which had ruled human liberation. He wanted the walls of hypocrisy and extortion to come tumbling down. He wanted the night of union to be cherished and the night of separation to be banned forever. In his student days, the books by Faiz, Minto, and Faraz were his

 

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* The shrine of a Muslim saint buried in Lahore, Pakistan.

 


companions. Those who were more perceptive said that he was born in the wrong country, and that someday his abilities would become public knowledge, and his name would be known far and wide - either as a well-known writer or as a notorious poet.

         "Son, you must keep away from women; protect yourself, for they will put a spell on you!" his mother warned.

         In the meantime, his father, who was an admirer of Iqbal, murmured: "India's poets, sculptors and short story writers. The minds of these are ridden by women."

         And he would reply in Minto's words that if male pigeons sing when they see their doves, and stallions neigh when they see their mares, then what could be wrong with a man who composes poetry or writes short stories when he sees a woman?

         One day, Yousaf packed his books, a few articles of clothing, and left his home as he felt suffocated in that atmosphere.

         "Mother, I am going to wander into the world and search now for myself."

         "When will you return, son?"

         "Dear mother, the paths that we choose to follow in life are only one-way streets. One cannot make a U-turn once you are on a highway."

         Twenty years passed, and for Yousaf's mother, every day seemed like a year and every night seemed as if a century of time had elapsed. She had not slept peacefully for even one night during these two decades; often she would be awakened abruptly from her sleep, reminiscing of her lost son.

         From time to time one of her son's friends would drop by and she would ask the friend, "Have you heard from my son? What kind of a job does he have?"

         "He is a student of psychology. He interprets the meaning of dreams for the people he meets," the friend would reply.

         "Yes, but in the meantime, his own mother's golden dreams are turning into nightmares," she would respond forlornly.

         "Aunty dear, do not worry. One day your son will be famous - a renowned poet!"

         "No son, no one really appreciates a poet. In this world there is no value given to poetry and to dreams. Ghalib was an esteemed poet but a man to be scorned; he spent the better part of his life drinking alcohol which was procured by borrowed money."

         Close by, Yousaf's father sat on his prayer rug writing to his poet son, "My boy, as well as the words of different poets, sometimes you should also read the words of Allah."

         More time passed, and then one day Yousaf's friend presented both parents with fifteen one-thousand rupee bills and said, "Aunty, the publisher has sent this money for you. He says that your son's books have started to sell."

         "Many, many thanks to you son. Come and share our joy. Have something sweet. Eat these luddoos* and take these dried dates with you. I have been saving them for quite some time. They have been blessed with the holy words from the Quran."

         Yousaf's mother bought two black lambs at the market for one-thousand rupees and presented them as an offer, at the Shrine of Data Sahib. With the remaining fourteen-thousand rupees, she made arrangements for the addition of two new rooms to their home. When the first room was complete she hung her son's picture on the wall on one side of the room.

         "Why don't you put the picture in the middle of the room?", one of her friends asked.

         "I have left room for his wife's photograph; it will hang on the other side of the wall," she replied.

         "But he does not want to get married."

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* A Pakistani sweet, often eaten at happy occasions

 


         "He will one day, when the phantom of poetry finally abandons him."

         One night, Yousaf's mother woke up with a fright. She called to her husband for comfort. "I've had a nightmare."

         "What is it?"

         "I saw a vision of my son. He was drenched in blood."

         "For heavens sake woman! Go back to sleep! It is midnight."

         "No," she cried. "No!"

         The following morning she went to the telegram office with her husband. They tried to place a telephone call, but there was no response so they sent a telegram.

         The next evening, the son's friend came to the door with the bad news.

         "Your son has had a car accident. He is in the hospital."

         On hearing the news, Yousaf's mother sank to the floor on her knees; within the next few hours she seemed to age several more years.

         The police had gone to the scene of the accident and examined Yousaf's car. It had collided with a truck and was now completely wrecked. Only the licence plate, LUVING, remained undamaged.

         All the relatives gathered at the family home. The next telegram that arrived reported that Yousaf had died.

         His mother made arrangements for his grave. Yousaf had always been close to his maternal grandmother, and so it was agreed upon to bury him beside his grandmother.

         Yousaf's mother cried for two long days and two very long nights; her husband, in the meantime, recited the Quran and tried to console his wife with words from the Holy Scriptures. That gave her no solace.

         A third telegram arrived the next day that said her son's corpse would not be returned to their village. When the police investigated the accident they found his driver's licence, on which he had written a testimony that said he agreed to donate his body to the students of medicine when he died; his eyes and his heart specifically, were to be a gift to women.

         Once the relatives had left the house and gone back to their own homes, Yousaf's mother woke up in the middle of the night and went to the cemetery. She stood beside her son's grave for a very long time, gazing at the emptiness below. After quite some time she descended into the grave.

         In the grave she slept peacefully for the first night in twenty years, perhaps because she was lying beside her own mother, or because she had now accepted that her son would never return; or maybe it was because she was completely and utterly exhausted.