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Dear ....Thank you for your quick response and sorry
for my delayed
response. Part of my reluctance and delay in response is that after
apologizing for my unintentional crossing the line in your house by my open
discussion about sexual matters, I am afraid I might cross the line again
and have to apologize again. I can clearly say that their is no intention to
offend you or anyone with this discussion. So I hope you receive my letter
with my respectful intentions.
Honestly speaking I had mixed feelings about your letter. The first
reaction was very positive. I am glad and impressed that you were willing to
respect human rights of gay and lesbian people and not deprive them of their
choice of lifestyle. That is very commendable and I am pleased to hear that.
My second reaction was that of surprise. I was curious why would
homosexuality be "abhorant to your sensibility".
When I was growing up in Pakistan and before I studied human psychology I
was told that homosexuality was
immoral
unnatural
and illegal
I later realized that those ideas were more reflection of people's religious
and social conditioning rather than the true nature of human beings. In my
studies of human sexuality one of the pioneers was Kinsy who introduced me
to the scientific study of human sexuality. Later on I read many other
scientists and psychologists and sociologists but Kinsey was a major
influence especially his classification and range of spectrum of
homosexuality. I just saw the movie Kinsey last week and I would recommend
it to all of you. I am quite willing to go to the show together and discuss
it afterwards on a cup of coffee. I know it is playing in Scarborough on
Kennedy and 401. Maybe it is also playing in Mississauga. I am willing to
come to Mississauga and see it again if you people wish. In the movie a
middle aged woman thanks Kinsy for adding happiness to her life. She shared
with him that she was in love with a woman but considering it unnatural and
sinful she was ashamed of her feelings and never shared them with the other
woman. But after reading his book she got the courage to be honest and
truthful and shared her feelings with her beloved and to her surprise found
out that the feelings were mutual and now both of them were having a
wonderful loving relationship and enjoying life. Why would their
relationship be abhorant to your sensibility?
FOzia...I have talked to many religious people Jews, and Christians and
Muslims and all of them find the practice sinful and immoral. They all quote
holy scriptures in their favour and tell me that the nation of Sodom and
Gomorrha were cursed by God because of their sins of Homosexuality. Since
you have a keen interest in scriptures and Monotheistic religions why do you
think Jewish, Christian and Muslim God is against Homosexuality. My gay
friend Ifti Nasim from Chicago, well respected as Urdu poet and persecuted
as a gay person, has written wonderful poems about the experiences of a
Muslim gay man. In those poems he asks his Muslim brothers and sisters why
he did not find sympathetic words in holy scriptures for himself?
Looking forward to your response. I hope I have not offended you or Masood
sahib or Shahid sahib or Pervaiz sahib. All of you are welcome to respond.
may be one of these days Family of heart can have a seminar on
Homosexuality and Relgion
...sincerely sohail
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